A couple things I've noticed about J - he narrates sex. And it's not really dirty talk, it's a lot of 'wow, we fit together so perfectly', 'this feels like such a privilege'. It's actually kind of annoying and I generally say nothing or just 'uh huh' (and I'm a girl that likes to talk in bed!) but it makes me realize how so much of this for him is not just about sex - it's about intimacy. It's about looking into each other's eyes and kissing and touching and experiencing this incredibly intimate thing together. I think that's what he misses - that's probably what all my lovers (and most people seeking affairs) (except Sir!) want. I mean, you can have an orgasm easily enough on your own, but sex really is about more than that - and I think that's really what J wants. Of course it's not really what I want (I enjoy intimacy with romantic partners - but this isn't about romance for me) but it's still kind of nice.
The other thing that is actually annoying me is he appears to have an aversion to oral sex. Now, while that would probably always be a problem for me, it wouldn't be such a big problem if he hadn't gone on and on about how much he loves it when we first met. And he sends me texts and stuff in between visits telling me how much he wants to eat me, etc. But when the time comes, I have to force him and then it's just for a couple minutes. He also still doesn't know where the clitoris is (is it really that complicated?). Because of this I didn't orgasm either time we met. That's okay, but it's kind of annoying because it's not actually that difficult to make me orgasm - the guy just needs to put in a little effort. And I've had some great orgasms with J in the past...ah well - maybe next time?
